Education Overhaul Step 4: BREATHE

Take a deep breath.  Seriously.  Just breathe.  Man, if your house is anything like mine, you are running 150 miles an hour with a mountain of laundry, cobwebs in the corners and dog hair covering the floor, kids screeching “MOMMYMOMMYMOMMY” like a broken record (what’s that?), a baby screaming unless she’s attached to your hip (or boob), the dog chewing up yet one  more toy in the corner while you trip over the five that are lying in the middle of the kitchen while you’re trying to prepare one of the 15 meals or snacks the kids “need” during the day because they are absolutely starving and God forbid you made their food touch or gave them food in the orange bowl.  Annnnnd, I forgot – on top of that you do this crazy thing called working from home and also haphazardly running a blog and now we need to throw a proper education in the mix.  Geesh.  I quit.


And now, I just stop.  I do quit.  Honestly.  I call it quits quite a few times a day.  If I don’t, I might just throttle someone, bless their sweet little hearts.  There are days…there are days that I’m lucky to get…oh wait – yes, yet again I forgot to get myself dressed for the fifteenth time today after sweet bright eyes spit up on me once again.

I catch myself starting to blow.  I start yelling at the kids, get overwhelmed by people pulling at  me with work and get a little OCD with wanting the house to be cleaned.  At that point I have two choices – pull out evil mom alter-ego where I actually step outside of myself and witness this awful person I never want to be coming out of me – or I walk away from the madness and simply play.

These kids are full throttle.  They are bouncing off the seats until they pass out in the same ones.  They are demanding, needy, insane, incredibly loud, and beautifully mine.  They are worth every hair-pulling minute.  Sometimes all they need is me.  No curriculum, no clean house, not even dinner.  Sometimes, I need to simply soak them in.  I need to sing with them in the kitchen, jump on the trampoline, and hold them in my arms.  They won’t be like this for long.  So on those days when you want to throw in the towel, do so.  Quit.  Quit trying to be perfect.  Quit trying to get a lesson plan in, work accomplished, laundry folded.  Order some food or go out to eat, and spend the extra time you have simply playing with your kids.  Grab them in your arms, close your eyes, and breathe.

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Insanely optimistic dreamer and implementer, gung ho to take life by the horns and learn from it! (Also fond of all things crafty or creative).
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2 Responses to Education Overhaul Step 4: BREATHE

  1. I often see parents (here and elsewhere) insist that their kids participate in activities they clearly no longer enjoy because they simply don’t want their kids to quit (like that’s a dirty word) or they fear that their kids will grow up not knowing how to follow through on commitments, or that they won’t learn how to work hard to reach goals. I just can’t wrap my head around it. I have started and stopped many things throughout my entire life, from childhood to now. Dance, sports , clubs, theater, exercise programs, classes, hobbies , two very different career paths, all kinds of things. I stuck with the things I enjoyed the most, and that is where I now excel. I did very well in college , had a solid work life before staying home full time, and have been a very committed and responsible volunteer in the community for many years. So I just don’t understand the thinking here. Why force our kids into activities they DON’T EVEN NEED TO DO, activities that are supposed to be FUN, or enriching, but not necessary? Yes, I get the idea of following through when you are part of a team, or a member of a cast, because other people are counting on you. And yes, I also agree with finishing out a season or a session, because kids need to learn that what they signed up for costs money , and that money should not be wasted. But beyond that, I don’t get it. I want my kids to be exposed to as many things as possible, so they find exactly what it is THEY are good at, AND enjoy. And I’m certainly not interested in the stress, drama and complete waste of time and money that it takes to keep a kid on a track they don’t even want to be on. School , homework , chores, personal health /safety, family obligations: not optional. Soccer or piano or dance: totally optional. Thoughts?

    • Mama Rose says:

      I agree 100%. Sometimes homeschool parents are the most guilty of this – instead of spending 40+ hours in a traditional school setting, they are shuttled from one enrichment activity to another – they are pushed to excellence and competition everywhere they go. Like you say at the end, however, it’s a balance. I want to expose my children to plenty of opportunities that are out there – but I don’t want to overload them. I want them to understand the value of commitment as well as the financial investment we lay out for them to do something they enjoy. But yes, I will not put my children in dance or make them play soccer just because. I want to open them up to the opportunities and let them play. Ultimately, though, it’s their decision on what they want to do, and if that’s simply to play in the back yard and use their imagination, more power to them!

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